So here I am, starting this blog in hopes of answering the most important question of my life so far…should I have kids? I hope this site will bring to it many more people like me, wondering if its time to take that next big step in their lives. I know I find it hard to discuss this issue with anyone, even my closest friends and family. Those with kids inevitably say…”yes, its very difficult and it does change your life forever, but you must have kids…what else are you going to do with your life?” And those without kids always end up with… “I’m so happy I don’t have kids…I am free to do whatever I want, whenever I want…and I absolutely don’t regret it, not for a second!” (yeah right). So here I am, stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I’m 37, I have a professional career, and best of all, I have a wonderful loving husband 🙂 I absolutely adore my hubby – fyi, he’s 40 and has a career that keeps him super busy with little time to play. Of course, I would say he adores me too. We have been together for almost 12 years, married for the last 3. We love our life together. We don’t do much outside of work, but that’s the great part. We are free to just sit around and relax at home, sleep, go out to dinner, a movie, a concert, dancing – whatever we want. Every night out is “date night” for us. With that said, I do sometimes wonder if this is how we are going to spend the rest of our lives. Will we share our joy with anyone? Will we have our own little family? What’s the purpose of us being together if we don’t have kids? Who will be there to take care of us when we grow old? But do I really want to give up the happy life that we have together, just me and him? Not yet.
And still, my clock keeps ticking away…
Let me know what you think. I also want to hear about your situation, I’m sure we have a lot in common! I will be posting more and often, but just wanted to get this thing going for now.